Mindfulness | How to Focus and Present Awesome You to the World



Life is intense. I feel like nowadays is a norm to have a million and one projects going on, and you’re somewhat looked down if you don’t have a side hustle, let alone, being someone who runs nine-to-five job position. So it’s safe to say that keeping your sanity intact it is a job itself. Recently I’ve been watching a documentary about Adderall and other performance-enhancing drugs (Take Your Pill), and I actually caught myself thinking that I wouldn’t mind having some. This is one of many reasons why I need to work on my mindfulness, and I think you might too.

So let’s dive in.

What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness is very trending right now. But, considering our insane and most of the time unhealthy lifestyle, it comes from pure necessity. Dr Mark Wlliams describes mindfulness as “awareness – awareness of what’s happening as it’s happening both in the inside world and the outside world”.

Practising mindfulness increases the ability to focus, decreases anxiety and gives that special oomph to the overall mood. It teaches to find inner peace with the presence and develop a non-judgemental attitude towards life. Personally, it helped me to open my mind and look at everything that life throws at me with an incredible ease. However, at the same time being much more aware of what happens around me. Read more about my take on meditation here.

The truth is that 90% of the things happening in your life you have no power over. So, basically, all those destroyed brain cells and sleepless nights spent worrying were for nothing. That’s why it is so important to invite peace into your life. But most importantly, see yourself as the priority. Once you learn that and put your happiness first, everything will come together.


How to be more mindful?

First of all, do a huge gift to yourself and start listening to your mind an body. You will be shocked how insightful it can be.

Secondly, I like to use a so-called formula of success: E (Event) + R (Response) = O (Outcome). I learned this from America’s #1 Succes Coach Jack Canfield. As Jack explains, “every outcome you experience in life (whether it’s success or failure, wealth or poverty, wellness or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event in your life”.

Basically, the idea is to realize that events are going to happen no matter what, and most the time you will not have any power over them. However, what matters is your response to those events. Based on how you respond to different life situations, you will determine a certain result.

The way it helps to my mindfulness is that it really makes me be aware of both: my surroundings and, most importantly, my actions. That pause, which I took before responding to a certain event, changed my life. I don’t want to sound dramatic (ok, I wanted it a little bit ha!), but it really makes a huge difference. Also, it works great in stressful situations by calming your nerves and putting on hold anxiety.


Mindfulness practices

  • Breathing exercises. When you feel stressed or losing touch with yourself, close your eyes or soften your gaze and really listen to the sound of your breath. Imagine how you inhale good energy and exhale all the worries you have. Surprisingly, our own breath has the same effect on us as a sound of the sea.
  • Meditation.  I’ve been practising daily meditation for more than 6 months now, and I’m not going to lie, it wasn’t easy in the beginning. As any habit, it takes time to form a new one. So start slowly: 5 min per day will be a great start and work your way up from there. Or not. Find something that feels best to your awesome self.
  • Yoga. Any form of exercising (yes, including sex!) is great for your body AND soul, but if you opt for yoga, you can benefit from it by developing awareness of your breathing. Fit body and calm soul anyone? Sign me up, please!


“Mindfulness isn’t the answer to everything, and it’s important that our enthusiasm doesn’t run ahead of the evidence,” says Professor Williams. However, right attitude and smile on your face make earth one hell a place to live in. Skai Tribe







30 thoughts on “Mindfulness | How to Focus and Present Awesome You to the World”

  1. This post is filled with such great information. E (Event) + R (Response) = O (Outcome) is a perfect response to attain focus and calm. Great read!

  2. Great timing for this post! This is something I am working on diligently right now. I started using meditation apps so I can squeeze it into my schedule because it can be when the daily craziness tries to take over. I love doing the 5 minute or less meditations while I’m at work. It definitely helps ground me 🙂

  3. Great post! Mindfulness is the buzzword, but basically it’s all about people slowing down and taking time to pay attention to what’s going on with their body. I personally like take a few minutes to close my eyes and relax, and to just unplug from things. I’ve gotten much better at letting work and other things go, but if I’m struggling I’ll listen to a relaxation tape that directs me to focus on certain parts of my body.

  4. This is so true! Mindfulness is important in all aspects, and I always need reminders of this. Life tends to get away from me sometimes, but that’s when I just need to slow down and come back to this post. 🙂

  5. I really needed to read this post today. Today was a crazy day and I’m wound up and my anxiety is starting up. I know I can squish it if I get ahead but sometimes I can’t catch it. I’m going to start doing yoga again, even though it reminds me how unflexible I’ve become!

    1. I feel you, Alecia! I had the same fear when I started doing yoga after two years break. It was so discouraging in the beginning. But now after two months of consistent practice, I think I am more flexible when I was at that time! And when anxiety sneaks on you again just focus on your breath, or do a body scan, or massage your feet (it sounds weird, but actually it really effective!)

  6. I needed this right now…I used to do yoga meditate 2 to 3 times a day for 30 minutes. So freeing. Then I had a baby lol. No but seriously I do sit in silence for 5 minutes a couple times a day but lately I feel it isn’t enough. I am constantly doing more than one thing at a time so I’m trying to be more mindful. Reading this makes me really want to work on that! By the way your photos are gorgeous!

    1. Thank you so much, Jessica! Try body scanning before you go to sleep. Just lay, focus on your breath and scan every single square of your body with your mind. It really calms you down and makes sleep quality better.

    1. In the beginning, I struggled as well. It took a fair amount of time to actually start enjoying it and realized how important and beneficial it is! So keep doing it!!!

  7. Great post! Mindfulness is soooooo important. It can definitely be hard – but important to just try to stay present and aware every single time! Have you read the Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer? I highly suggest it!

  8. Sam – Thiswaymommy.com
    This is very much a work in progress for me. I am learning day by day to slow down and be more mindful. It is important to stop and “breathe” at times.

  9. We can’t go on drifting mindlessly in and out of events and experiences. As you said we have to develop mindfulness to maintain our sanity. You described mindfulness as recognizing that how we respond to situations determine their outcome. Mindfulness is then operating from an inner locus of control in which we take responsibility for our lives as we in recognize that we have some influence on events that occur in our lives. I agree. Thanks for sharing

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